Control dating relationships


This little exercise will help you train your mind to stay calm and avoid spinning into a frenzy.It will help you gain control over your thoughts and your mood, and this will be of major benefit to you and your relationship.For example, if you started seeing a guy and don’t hear from him for a day or two, say, “I will not panic about this right now.If I don’t hear from him by X day at Y time, then I am allowed to be upset about this,” and then just take it out of your mind.



No amount of plotting or analyzing will change whether you and someone else are compatible. The dating process is more of a discovery process to find out if it’s there.But then you don’t hear from him for a day or two and immediately hit the panic button. In his mind, the relationship is going great, he’s happy to have met a great girl like you and he can’t wait to finish this big project so he can see you again. You’re relieved, but at the same time, you are so in it now.And then the devastation starts to creep in…followed by the doubts. He’s happily going along doing his thing while you are knee-deep in heartbreak mode, mourning the loss of what could have been and trying to figure out where it all went wrong. You cling to the relationship even tighter because you remember how miserable it felt when you thought you lost it and you vow not to do anything to screw this up.Most understood the point I was making in the article, but rather than relaxing and just going with the flow, they wanted to know: “How can I fix it if I was stressing too much? It causes problems within the relationship, and more importantly, it takes a huge toll on your sense of self and self-esteem.

The next step is to get to the root of it and figure out how to solve it.

In my article on why guys suddenly lose interest, I discussed how caring too much or stressing over your relationship can irreparably damage it. When you eliminate the care (or worry or stress or whatever you want to call it), you are free to really be in the relationship.